Tip 7# Putting partners on pedestals

When you’re in the beginning stages of a relationship, when you’re filled with romance, excitement and curiosity about your new partner – it’s hard to image they can do any wrong, right?

So being appreciative and in a bit of awe of them in the beginning is normal.  It’s called the honeymoon phase for a reason… if all we ever saw in the beginning was someone flaws and fallibility, we might not ever mate.  It’s when you make the mistake of viewing them through ‘rose-coloured’ glasses for a bit too long, that it becomes a problem.

If over time, you continue to gush with praise and compliments to the point of putting them on a pedestal, this is emotionally dangerous, for both of you.  You will set yourself up for disappointment when their flaws start to show and you begin to see them for the ‘ordinary’ human they are.  This can also be the seeds for a narcissistic relationship, if the partner being praised comes to expect it and becomes disappointed, even angry, if you don’t maintain this façade.

If you’ve noticed a pattern in your life of attracting or be attracted to a string of unhealthy relationships then this might be of help to you, or someone you know.  My objective here is for you to become brave enough to say ‘enough is enough’ and give yourself the wake up call you need right now…

These are my tips on how to clean your mind of bad relationship patterns and habits. This has been tip #7 – Putting partners on a pedestal