Do you buy or receive expensive gifts or presents in order to resolve conflicts? If this is a strategy that you have developed to avoid talking things through, it’s really not a long term solution.  I know it may seem great initially and bring some peace to the situation.  It may even bring back a bit of spark.  But over time this behaviour leads to bigger and more toxic situations and outbursts because the unresolved pent-up resentment has been left to fester and grow. And don’t get me wrong I’m only talking about the giving of gifts as a way of avoiding talking about issues of conflict between you – not about giving for giving sake, or saying I’m sorry, let’s talk about this.